Going out in public with multiples is akin to accompanying a celebrity or participating in a circus sideshow. People stop, stare, whisper among themselves, make comments about you to others that you aren’t supposed to acknowledge, and various other activities designed to make you feel rather self-conscious. I feel as though I should start waving to the crowd in pageant fashion (hand slightly cupped, moving slowly from left to right) as I parade slowly down the frozen food aisle. On occasion, some will actually speak to me, and usually some version of the same questions/comments that I hear a lot will follow. I am including them here for your amusement. If you read a question/comment here that you yourself have said to me, please don’t feel as though I am making fun and please don’t feel badly. Just know that you aren’t the only person who has said this, and I enjoy it every time.
1. Are they twins? One woman, two babies that appear to be the same age. Yes, yes, they are. Granted, they could be non-related babies that I keep while their parents work, but here’s the thing – anyone who could wait and go shopping after the toddlers left their care would do just that – wait and go later. I do have a dear friend who is raising a child that is almost exactly the same age as her biological son, so there are exceptions. However, isn’t she the exception and I the rule?
2. Are they identical? One is a blond-haired, blue-eyed boy and the other is dark-haired, brown-eyed girl. So, no, they aren’t identical. Just for educational purposes, twins of different genders cannot be identical. Identical twins are produced from one egg containing the same gender chromosomes. Fraternal twins are produced from two separate eggs. It’s no different from having individual children from the same parents at different times, only they are born at the same time.
3. I bet you have your hands full/ I bet you sure are busy! – You have no idea.
4. How do you take them shopping all by yourself? – You just do. If you need to buy food, shopping with 1 year old twins is preferable to going hungry.
5. (I get this one when all four of the children are with me) Do they all have the same father? – Yes, especially the twins. Thanks for asking.
6. I wish I could have twins. – I recommend high doses of fertility drugs. Worked for me….
7. How old is your 4-year old? – She’s 4. (The lady apologized for this one. She meant to ask another question about Scarlette-Head. It was just so funny, I had to include it here.)
8. Aren’t you so blessed?! – Beyond comprehension!
Have a great day, friends!
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How fun! I used to babysit a girl two months younger than Riley, like all day every day, and I would take them out and people thought they were twins. I loved it :) But, however it was twins with perks, like one got to go home. Ha!
ReplyDeleteToo bad no one ever asks if they all have the same mothers as well. That would throw them for a loop:)
How blessed you are! So many girls dream of having twins :D
Tracey...I'm buying you a crown!
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